Wonder Woman Is No Longer An Honorary UN Ambassador, And That’s Some BS

STRAITENED CIRCUMSTANCES: Tim Hanley on Wonder Woman and Women in Comics

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A month and a half ago, Wonder Woman was named an Honorary United Nations Ambassador for the Empowerment of Women and Girls in a special ceremony in New York City. The event tied in with the character’s 75th anniversary and was a big to-do all around; it marked the beginning of a great initiative to empower girls all over the world, and Lynda Carter, Gal Gadot, and Patty Jenkins were all on hand to celebrate Wonder Woman’s appointment. Current Wonder Woman artist Nicola Scott also drew a gorgeous piece that was used as a key part of the new campaign. It was all very lovely, and there was talk of big plans for Wonder Woman and the campaign throughout 2017. Then yesterday, news broke that Wonder Woman was out as an honorary ambassador.

Many have pointed out that honorary ambassadorships tend to have a short shelf life; a climate change…

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Let Love Flow

heartriver.jpgOne rainy afternoon in San Francisco, I was enjoying a glass of wine with someone I had met through a mutual friend. When my new acquaintance mentioned our compadre, a warmth filled my chest, a feeling of affinity and kinship that expanded my sense of aliveness. “I love that guy,” I said.

Our mutual buddy had been the college roommate of another dear friend, and they had shared years of formative and transformational experiences together, key players in countless stories I had heard over the years.

“You don’t even know him”, the man said from across the table. “I hate it when people use the word ‘love’ so casually. It cheapens it.” Wow.

I was floored — shamed, hurt, and really, really confused. I had no idea what he was talking about and I couldn’t think of a question that would help clarify what he meant. His indictment of my Love as something unworthy left me feeling slimed. How in the world can Love be casual?

After much processing, I came to understand what he meant. For him, love was the award given to someone after his personal selection process, given to those special few. In his world, love was something to be earned/developed over time. Now, I have no idea what was involved in his selection/construction process, but clearly it was a scarce commodity and was not to be wasted on the unworthy. That is not at all how I experience Love.

Love, as I have come to know it, exists everywhere and between everyone, an ever-present and sacred quality that can be called to the forefront of awareness by naming it. Summoning Love into a conversation is an invitation to extoll the virtues of whoever or whatever else is being discussed, to share stories about what they bring to our world, about their expressions and contributions, about the circumstances of their experience and to name the qualities in them that mean so much to us. And through this conversation, Love increases in intensity and scope, and we all benefit from its visit, which leaves our hearts full when we part. By naming Love, we empower it.

Love is not at all diminished through its sharing. It doesn’t thin out as it spreads around. It is the very nature of Love to become more abundant through giving sharing it. That’s the paradox — the more Love we give, the more we have available. By keeping Love flowing, we become more attuned to its rhythm and frequency and learn to dance with it, like a familiar song that strengthens the heart and moves the soul.

When the flow of Love is inhibited, dammed up and held in reserve, it begins to stagnate. We may feel a sense of ownership or dominion over it, and feel safe from its wildness, but it has lost its vibrancy, its transformational power that comes with free movement through the jungle of life.

If it remains blocked for too long, we may diminish our ability to channel its wild energy, having forgotten what it feels like to let it course through us. Letting it flow again may be painful at first, frighteningly overwhelming with the knowledge that it could break your heart — but when it is allowed to flow, it nourishes everyone it touches. Letting Love flow is at once the most generous and selfish thing we can do — and it’s important to keep ourselves inside the flow. One sure way to dam it up is to refuse to receive it when Love flows your way.

There is a school of thought that says a person exists not within a body, but “inside a conversation.” When we bring Love to the discussion of someone, even when they are not physically present, we are actually giving them Love in a meaningful, concrete way. When I say I love someone, and you see the person I said I loved, you bring my transmission of Love into your interaction with them.

When life feels sad, overwhelming, lonely, or just plain shitty, calling to mind all the people we love is like opening a boarded-up window to let in a revitalizing breeze and the light of the knowledge that these people know we love them, that we appreciate them, because we tell them so as often as we can. Loving people is so much easier, more efficient, and beneficial than withholding Love.

Women Are the Wave of the Future

We are thirteen days away from electing the first woman to the office of President of the United States, and today I had the pleasure of watching a video of conservative commentator Megyn Kelly calmly and powerfully schooling sexist former Speaker of the House Newt Gingrich for his defense of Donald Trump, who was caught boasting about sexually assaulting women.

Gingrich tried a smoke-and-mirror tactic, diverting the topic to the soon to be First Husband, Bill Clinton — but Kelly wasn’t having it. She stated the obvious — that Bill Clinton isn’t running for president and Trump is, before calling Gingrich out on his defensiveness and suggesting he work on his anger issues. Here’s the clip:

Let me now say — holy shit!

A female newscaster putting a male congressional leader firmly in his place is a big freaking deal! Women have only been voting since 1920, and a public forum where a woman can speak truth to power is a testament how far they have come. In my family, my mother and stepmother are the first generation of women born with the right to vote. Now, I don’t agree with Megyn Kelly on much of anything, but I absolutely share her concern over the protection of women from men in power.

I applaud Kelly for standing as equal in value and superior in intellect to Gingrich, who owes his position almost exclusively to white male privilege. Without it, it’s hard to imagine him being a productive member of society. That he’s in a position of leadership is a mystery that is solved by the knowledge that there are also people who would vote for Donald Trump for president.

The ability of these men to wield power is predicated on entrenched white male supremacist social structures. Compared to Hillary Clinton and Megyn Kelly, these men are weak, ineffectual, undisciplined, and dimwitted. Knowing this about themselves, they attack Kelly’s gender and accuse her of being “obsessed with sex,” rather than answer her questions, which would be to acknowledge her as an equal or (God, forbid!) superior.

Hillary Clinton and Megyn Kelly are the beneficiaries of women who gave their lives to the cause of women’s suffrage. Nearly 100 years ago, these heroic crusaders won the vote. This year they win the presidency. And in Kelly’s verbal takedown of Newt Gingrich, I caught a glimpse of the future, a future where women direct the global political conversation, guiding it in service to the well-being of one human family.

Imagine Kelly interviewing Clinton, challenging her positions and choices but without the corrosive power dynamic that pollutes conversations between men and women in leadership positions. The two women may not agree, but they know they are both fighting for a world that works, and each has intimate knowledge of the challenges they have faced to arrive at their current position. No one can accuse Trump or Gingrich or Pence of fighting for a world that works for anyone but themselves.

I believe we have arrived at a tipping point, ironically arrived at by the mindboggling misogyny of Donald Trump, when women finally reject, en masse, the forces that have suppressed them, and recognize that their power to rise is simply waiting for them to claim it by standing together in resistance. Women are perhaps waking up to their collective power, as a voting block and an economic powerhouse. As Wonder Woman said in her TV series, “Women are the wave of the future — and sisterhood is stronger than anything!” Come on, ladies! Prove her right!

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Hollywood: Year One (Round 2)

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This week marks one year since my arrival in Los Angeles. Upon reflection, I deem 2015 a success by every measure. I set out to accomplish a few specific, challenging goals: a commercial agent, a theatrical agent, a TV role, a SAG-AFTRA membership, and I accomplished all of these before the ball dropped on December 31. I want to take this opportunity to reflect  on a few things that worked well for me. I hope other actors preparing to take on Hollywood will find it a useful resource. This post is not intended as advice, merely a few things I found effective on my way to produce my desired results. Every actor is unique, with specific strengths and areas to grow. There is no right path. If you have questions, feel free to reach out to me on Twitter. I’m @bostonblake.

Laying the Groundwork

My move to LA started long before I packed my car. At the beginning of 2014, I decided I would spend the year doing some LA recon. The business has changed since I lived here in the late 90s and I needed to get the lay of the land. I also wanted to set things in motion so that I would hit the ground running upon my arrival. One of the most common patterns I’ve witnessed in fresh young actors is stagnation that sets in after she or he arrives and is faced with the overwhelming task of building a life in a new city. To avoid that trap, I drove from San Francisco to LA about 10 times to attend  workshops and meet casting professionals, forging new relationships that I would continue to nurture after my arrival.

In addition to my LA visits, I entered several Acting Challenges through indi.com. I believe these challenges had the greatest impact in terms of creating a positive entry into Hollywood. I won meetings with four Casting Associates, one of whom called me for an audition for Glee’s series finale. (That’s a heartbreaking story I’ll share in another post.) Not only did this bolster my confidence, but it also gave me something to talk about. One thing I’ve learned is the power of the story you are telling about your life. Being new in town is simply not interesting. When anyone asked, “What have you been doing since you arrived?” I’ve always had an honest, empowered answer since the day I landed. What’s more, I’ve become friends with members of the indi.com community, and good friends in this town are priceless.

Community 

In addition to the new people I was meeting, I also reached out to friends I already knew in the area — dear friends from decades ago and actors who had also recently made the trek from SF to SoCal. I reached out to people I had only previously known on Facebook and wanted to know better. Some are in the business, others, not at all, but it’s been essential for my mental health to connect at the level of human being — not just as a professional networking opportunity. I’ve also maintained connections with my non-actor friends in San Francisco — my Tribe — and this has made a world of difference.

Hollywood has a value system all its own, and it isn’t always aligned with mine. I regard many aspect of it as unhealthy. When that value system starts to peck away at my self-esteem, I connect with my friends who are living meaningful lives elsewhere, doing cancer research, offering legal assistance to immigrants, and working toward a cure for HIV. They remind me of who I am and why I do what I do. Making modern myths is a phenomenal contribution, and it’s one of the most noble things we can do if we do it meaningfully and responsibly. However, if it becomes merely about feeding the ego or satisfying a neurotic need to be seen, something essential is lost. The culture of Hollywood has an unmistakably toxic element, and my soul needs frequent infusions of nourishing energy. That’s what friends are for.

Filtering

Every person in Hollywood has an opinion, and most of them don’t hesitate to share them. One of the things I love about being older is having decades of experience in listening carefully and asking specific questions. If someone recommends a class or workshop, I want to know specifically what they gained from it that made a difference for them, and I want to know what they have observed in me that makes them think it’s a fit. For me, time and money are resources to be allocated carefully.

Since I’m new to Hollywood, I find myself surrounded by many younger people who are still discovering who they are. I remember that stage of my own life fondly. Since then, however, I have participated in countless trainings, seminars, workshops, retreats, and programs, covering topics ranging from creativity to communication to sexuality. Because I can be obsessive, I’ve also studied much of the source material from which these classes are derived. When someone shares with me something cool they’ve done, of course I’m excited to hear, and part of me wants to take the class just so we can share that experience, but more often than not the content is a rehash of familiar material. My filters presently have three criteria:

  1. Can I use this to become a better actor?
  2. Will this help me develop relationships with the professionals I want to work with?
  3. Is the absolute best use of my time and money at this time?

Case in point: Someone invited me to attend a $300 networking class delivered by a young actor. I asked who I would be meeting. The answer: a roomful of actors who were learning how to network. That didn’t seem like a good use of my time or money. For about the same cost, I was invited to a private event where I was introduced to agents, managers, and casting directors with significant influence. What’s more, birds of a feather flock together. It was no surprise that I liked the people I met as much as I liked the person who invited me, and I believe I will be able to call some of these people friends and co-creators for years to come.

Gratitude

This is a big one for me. I’m extremely privileged and I strive to never take it for granted. I’m healthy with all my limbs and senses. I have a college education. I have a supportive family, including living parents who are excited about my path. I have a lifetime of friends I’m in contact with through social media.

I do my best to be transparent about my journey on my Facebook Page. I mention every single tiny win, and I share when I screw up or get overwhelmed. My friends who “like” and comment and cheer me on are on this ride with me. It would be terribly lonely without them. When it came time to join SAG-AFTRA and I needed to raise the joining fee fast, they came through on GoFundMe. My union membership was made possible by my incredible community. I make a point everyday to express my gratitude by doing my best to be worthy of their belief in me, and that outpouring of gratitude keeps me focused on all the goodness in my life and creates a positive feedback loop, which brings more goodness for which to be grateful.

Walking Through the Doors That Open

One of my favorite resources for actors is the Inside Acting Podcast. In an outstanding interview, publicist Stephen Rohr draws a distinction between kicking down the doors you want to go through and stepping through the ones that open. A number of times I thought I had found the right agent and became disappointed when it didn’t work out. But ultimately the one who signed me is a perfect fit — and one I had never considered!

When I was invited to a private networking event that met my criteria and felt right, I spent my last dollar to attend. It was another attendee at that event who later referred me to my current agent. My first TV role was something I never thought I’d do (and I’ll share more about that in a future post after the show is announced), but by stepping out of my comfort zone I landed my first guest star credit. By being unattached to what opportunities look like, I’ve been able to take advantage of many more of them than I would have, had I insisted they show up on my terms.

Commitment

One of the most repeated sayings in Hollywood is, “If you can do anything else other than acting, you should do that.” I regard this as equal parts Gospel Truth and utter horseshit, depending on how you interpret it. To some people it means, “If acting is the only skill you have, that’s what you must do.” Horseshit.

If acting is the only skill you have, you’re a lousy actor. Actors are doers, adventurers, seekers, and experience junkies. (Actors admittedly tend to be lousy at business and administration; that’s why we have agents and managers. But outside of that, good actors are lifelong learners.) Acting is about interpreting life, and if someone is incapable of living, they have no business interpreting it on stage or on screen.

However, there’s another side to this. In 2013, I had finished my BA and was preparing to go into non-profit fundraising when I found myself facing an uncomfortable truth. Though my life circumstances were fine, I was deeply unhappy. I could not imagine doing what I was doing for five more years without killing myself. That’s when I asked myself this question: If you had one year to live… If you knew you would die during that time, and that you would die the middle of something, what would you do?

At that moment, I was reborn. The answer was immediate and unmistakable. I would audition for and act in as many plays as I could during that year and I would give it everything I had. If I couldn’t get cast, I would sell everything I had to produce my own work, and I would die onstage.

When I stopped acting professionally in 2001, I thought I was finished forever, but the fact is I’m most inspired and happy when acting is a primary focus in my life. When it’s not, I’m lost. I’m a generally cheery person and I can make the best of nearly any situation, but that isn’t the same as being fully alive! That’s the meaning of the statement above: “If you can’t be fully alive unless you are acting, then you must act.”

Acting professionally is really, really hard. Unless someone is living this life, they have no idea how challenging it can be, mentally, emotionally, and physically — and it will never get any easier, at least not as a permanent condition. I’ve found it useful to assume this is a truth (though I’m open being wrong). By accepting this as reality, I remain prepared to face the challenges as they come. If you start looking for easy, you’re screwed.

For some actors, it’s many years before they can actually pay their rent with acting income — and frankly most never do. That is not a negative belief; that is a fact. Every actor, no matter how successful, is worried that their current job will be their last. Despite all this, quitting is not an option because they know they can’t be happy without this craft and profession. At this point in my life I understand that the same is true for me.

That’s why when I have hard days (and I have lots of them) I ask this question: Are you going to quit and do something else? Then I laugh… and I get back to work.

Welcome to Hollywood: My First Indi Casting Director Meeting

Yesterday I had the pleasure of meeting with TV casting director Garrett McGuire (Supernatural, iZombie), an opportunity I won through indi.com’s Acting Challenge an online competition where actors win meetings with LA casting directors. (I’m in another one right now, and you can vote for me here!) Across from Eric sat the Indi News Team, Sean McLaughlin and Nicole Greenwood, along with fellow Indi actor, Travis Dixon.  Veteran actor Geoffrey Cantor joined us shortly after I arrived, and we all talked and laughed about travel, show business, family, and a few topics best not mentioned publicly.

Everyone brought to the table a different point of view on the entertainment industry, each person with valuable insights to share. Garrett made a note that I was looking for representation, and Nicole was wonderfully generous with suggestions about how to approach the this market. Geoffrey, who was in town filming the new Cohen brothers movie, Hail, Caesar, was a treasure trove of information and encouragement, offering the perspective of working actor whose career I admire. Among my  gleanings from this round table discussion were the importance of approaching every audition systematically, giving each the care I would give to my most desired roles and of embracing my commercial appearance, which everyone seemed to agree would by a likely point of entry for me into the professional Hollywood acting scene.

This sit-down session was the first of three meetings I’ve won thus far, and my next one is scheduled for Monday with Jessica Sherman (Star Wars: Episode VII). I couldn’t ask for a more wonderful arrival in Hollywood, with a professional community already emerging within this City of Dreams that would be overwhelming without such strong human connection. And it is all happening because of the people who have supported me by voting in these Acting Challenges. This is the Power of Community. I am grateful and humbled beyond words. Thank you.